Last week, I had the incredible honor of sharing my story on The Christian Broadcasting Network (CBN) — a moment I never could have imagined years ago. To sit on a national platform and talk openly about same-sex attraction and what God has done in my life was both humbling and deeply emotional.
Freedom from same-sex attraction doesn’t come from self-will or suppression, but from surrender to Jesus Christ. Sanctification is a journey — we may stumble, but as we keep returning to Him, He reshapes our hearts and renews our desires through His transforming grace.
CBN captured the essence of my journey beautifully: a man who once lived according to his own desires, now finding peace and purpose in obedience to Christ. But what I most hope viewers take away isn’t about me — it’s about Him. It’s about the power of the gospel to change hearts, redirect desires, and offer freedom to anyone who seeks it.
Watch the Full Interview
Here’s my full interview on CBN News, where I share how God led me out of addiction and sin into freedom and peace through faith in Jesus Christ. You can also view it directly on CBN’s official YouTube channel.
The Struggle Many Don’t Understand
We live in a culture that loves labels. People are defined by what they feel, desire, or identify with. But same-sex attraction is not an identity — it’s an area of struggle that, like any other, can be surrendered to Christ.
For many, that statement brings discomfort. Some think it sounds impossible, others think it sounds condemning. I understand both reactions because I’ve lived in the middle of that tension. There were years when I tried to reconcile my faith with my relationships, trying to have both Jesus and my own way. And yet deep down, I knew that following Christ meant surrendering everything.
It wasn’t about changing my attractions — it was about changing my heart.
(I explore this more deeply in my post Why I Trust God Over Same-Sex Attraction.)
What CBN Got Right
In my CBN interview, I spoke honestly about how Scripture became the turning point in my life. My sister had invited me to a men’s Bible study, and through that group, I finally began to study God’s Word deeply for the first time. It wasn’t about surface devotionals or inspirational quotes. It was the living Word of God, confronting me, convicting me, and ultimately healing me.
What impressed me most about CBN was how respectfully they handled such a sensitive subject. They didn’t sensationalize it or twist it to fit a cultural narrative. They simply told the truth: that God’s grace can reach anyone, no matter where they are, and His call to holiness applies to all of us equally.
(I’ve written more about the danger of compromising God’s Word in The Real Danger of Progressive Christianity.)
When Faith and Flesh Collide
For anyone who experiences same-sex attraction, the battle between faith and flesh can feel relentless. The enemy loves to whisper that obedience is too hard — that God’s commands are unfair or impossible. But that’s a lie.
Scripture tells us that no temptation has overtaken us except what is common to man, and that God always provides a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). That doesn’t mean it’s easy. It means it’s possible.
I want to be clear: this walk isn’t about perfection. It’s about direction. Sanctification is not a one-time event; it’s a lifelong process. There are still days when I feel the weight of my humanity. But every time I stumble or grow weary, I return to the One who never tires of forgiving and refining me.
To the Young Men Who Struggle
This is where my heart really is. I often think about the young men out there who are where I once was — wrestling with who they are, trying to reconcile faith and feelings, and feeling overwhelmed by the pressure of hormones and culture alike.
If that’s you, hear me clearly: you’re not alone, and you’re not beyond hope.
You might fail. You might fall short more times than you can count. But don’t let failure make you believe you’re finished. The grace of God is bigger than your struggle. Every time you come back to Him, He’s there — shaping you, strengthening you, sanctifying you.
Obedience to Christ isn’t about repression; it’s about freedom. It’s about realizing that the more we walk with Him, the more our desires start to change — not by force, but by love.
Sanctification Is a Process, Not a Punishment
One of the greatest lies Satan tells believers is that if you haven’t “arrived,” you’ve failed. But sanctification isn’t about arriving — it’s about abiding.
When I first committed to celibacy, it wasn’t because I thought it would earn me points with God. It was because I finally believed that what He asked of me was for my good. That realization changed everything.
The road of obedience can feel lonely at times, but it’s filled with peace that the world can’t counterfeit. And even in seasons of weakness, when the old temptations whisper again, I’ve learned to see those moments not as setbacks, but as reminders of my need for the Savior who never lets go.
Finding Freedom from Same-Sex Attraction
Freedom from same-sex attraction doesn’t mean the absence of temptation — it means no longer being controlled by it. It means letting Christ define your identity, not your desires.
When you find your identity in Jesus, everything else finds its rightful place. You stop fighting for acceptance and start resting in His love. You stop measuring yourself by struggle and start rejoicing in grace.
That’s the message I wanted the CBN audience — and now my readers — to hear. Freedom is not about perfection; it’s about a heart surrendered to God.
We all have our battles. This just happens to be mine. But through Christ, I’ve learned that the battles we face are the very places where God shows His power most clearly.
As long as we keep coming back to Him — as long as we let Him be the center of our story — there’s no failure He can’t redeem and no heart He can’t restore.
Arch Kennedy
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